You work closely with your boss. You have to face him every day in office. He supervises your work and reviews your performance. In fact, your boss actually has a direct influence on your progress in the company. Imagine what happens when you and your boss do not get along at all! What would you do if your boss does not like you?
It might not be personal but professional differences or just plain circumstances that may have caused the problem. In the end, no matter what the cause, it is difficult to get through a workday if you do not have a cordial relationship with the boss.
The fact is you do need to have a professional working relationship just so that you can work productively. Besides, a biased boss can damage your career and work reputation as well.
To prevent this from happening, we recommend you sit back and analyze the situation carefully.
Here is what to do when you realize that your boss does not like you.
1. Confirm the Situation
First, are you sure that your boss does not like you? It may be that he is just that kind of a person. How is his interaction with others? For example, do your colleagues face the same problem? Is he critical, sarcastic, dismissive, etc of everyone’s opinions or ideas? Or does he behave in this manner only with you?
If it is the former, there is not really much you can do. But if it is the latter scenario, you will have to dig deeper and find out what really is going on and how you should handle it.
2. Figure out Why He Does not Like You
There might be a particular point at which you noticed this issue. Be honest and introspect whether the fault lies with you. Answer these questions.
- Are you always late with your work?
- Do you display no initiative in projects?
- Do you keep your boss in the loop about projects or are you frequently reprimanded for being aloof and secretive?
- Do you take frequent breaks or are you using office time to carry out personal work?
These issues are your mistakes In such situations if your boos does not like you and does not offer you greater responsibilities or pay heed to your ideas, he is probably justified. Remedy such behavior immediately and convey this to your boss. It will definitely improve your office situation.
3. Your Boss Really Does not Like You
There might be a personal (sexist, racist, unexplained) or management reason that is causing your boss to dismiss your opinions or dislike you personally. Either way, it is bad news and difficult to deal with. You can best handle the situation with the following tips:
- Focus on your Performance.
No one can argue with a good worker. Make sure you do your job to the best of your abilities and stand up for yourself in front of your colleagues and top management. Do not be aggressive, but make your point confidently and politely when the need arises. Whatever your boss says (or does not say) about you, it is difficult to refute solid numbers that prove your performance.
- Your Colleagues are not your Sounding Board
Do not openly vent your feelings against the boss even to office colleagues. Word does travel and if it gets around to your boss, matters might take a turn for the worse. It may eventually pass upwards too and create an impression with your boss’s boss that you are an office gossip. That’s the last thing you want as it will undo all your actual hard work and sully your reputation.
- Maintain a Professional Relationship with Your Boss
Keep your relationship with your boss as professional as possible. Develop emotional detachment/insensitivity to his remarks, behavior and attitude towards you.
It is difficult to change a person’s opinion about you but if you have patience, it is possible. Try to pull in your colleagues on your side by building cordial relationships with them. Having them on your side can be an asset in case the situation deteriorates completely.
However, if you feel that your civil liberties and personal security are threatened, you can speak to your boss’ boss or to the HR department……..But this should be a considered decision after weighing in all the pros and cons.
If you feel it is not worth the fight, it is time to look for another job.